I'm on the verge of getting my Pink Card rejected for a number of infractions - last and probably most prominent of which is my total inability to dress myself like an actual adult.
Most days I just sort of throw myself at the closet and hope for the best. On some days I somehow cobble together an outfit that's actually passable, and if the light hits me just right rather dapper (to match my cunning, rather witty personality that I envision myself having). Other days it looks like I'm on the Fashion Police's Most Wanted List, needed for questioning on the brutal murder of good taste and matching socks.
Normally, this isn't much of a concern to me unless someone notices previously admitted mismatched socks. However, when I have to dress for special occasions it becomes a source of anxiety. This is a bad thing because that's another penny in the jar that I just can't afford. I have enough anxiety over EVERYTHING IN THE WORLD as it is.
I dragged my friend Kate along to go shopping with me in order to find suit, shirt, shoes, tie, and socks for the wedding. It was all rather shockingly easy. We found the suit - the perfect suit, mind you - at the first store. Still, one should compare and check and after much fussing and trying on and plenty of measuring tape (I'm a 38-Normal jacket size, I've learned, with a preference for modern trimmed in the waist cuts). Yet after chasing hither and thither through the throngs at the mall we came back to our first choice. The same happened for the shoes and the tie and the belt. First choice. Spot on. Best option.
Even the sales people were easy, helpful and beyond pleasant bordering on adorably sweet as well as plain adorable (Daniel at J. Crew in the Sacramento Arden Mall, you are a saint). Admittedly, though, one woman at Nordstrom's was rather caught off guard. She first assumed that Kate was the bride. Next, when I mentioned that I was trying to match military dress, she assumed dress meant a woman's military dress. We showed her a picture of Fiance in uniform to which she replied an off-guard "Oh!" Still, she was quite helpful.
So yes, in the end we came up with a suit in Irish linen that works strikingly well and shoes that are smashingly sexy. We also came up for the rules that I hope the Internet and future gay military grooms may find useful:
How to Match Your Partner's Military Uniform for Your (Gay) Wedding:
- Jacket and pants should be a complimentary color. For example, if he is wearing Navy military dress (e.g., a black jacket) you should wear a black, navy, charcoal, grey suit. If he is wearing classic military (e.g., a green jacket) go khaki, chino, light grey, or light green.
- White shirt. Always.
- Tie should match your partner's jacket color. Feel free to go a few shades lighter or darker, but no more.
- If you want a pocket square, by all means go ahead. See rules on picking a tie.
- Cufflinks or tie clip. Pick one, not both. Normally I frown on gold jewelry of any kind but in this case it's allowable as most military bling is in copper, brass, or gold so we can allow a pass so you both match.
- Your shoes should match your belt. This has not changed and nor will it ever.
Strawberry Lime Buttermilk Cake
Adapted from Smitten Kitchen
1 cup all-purpose flour
1/2 teaspoon baking powder
1/2 teaspoon baking soda
1/4 teaspoon salt
4 tablespoons unsalted butter, softened
2/3 cup sugar
1 tablespoon pure vanilla extract
zest of 1 lime
1/2 cup well-shaken buttermilk
1 cup strawberries, sliced
1 tablespoon powdered sugar
1. Preheat oven to 400F with a rack sitting in the middle position. Butter and flour a 9-inch cake pan.
2. Whisk together the flour, baking soda & powder, and salt in a bowl and set aside. Beat the butter in a mixer until light and fluffy, about 3 minutes on high. Add the sugar, lime zest, and vanilla extract and beat for another 3 minutes. Add the egg and beat for another minute being sure to scrape down the sides and bottom.
3. Add the flour mix and buttermilk in a dry-wet-dry pattern until both are used up, mixing only until the ingredients come together. Be sure to scrape down the sides and bottom to ensure even mixing.
4. Fold in the strawberries, then pour the mixture into the cake pan and level the batter. Bake for 25-30 minutes. Allow to cool in the pan for 10 minutes, then turn the cake onto a wire rack to cool completely. Dust with powdered sugar and serve with tea.